I’m going to share a game with you. This game will reveal incredible things about whoever plays it; surprise, shock and delight complete strangers, and has kickstarted more friendships than I know how to count.
Play along, and you’ll see.
I want you to imagine a desert, stretching out as far as your eyes can see. In this desert is a cube.
Your first task is to describe the cube. What does it look like? How large is it? What is it made of? Where exactly is it?
There are no right answers here, only your answers. Take a moment before you continue – the detail is important.
As you look at the desert and your cube, you notice there is also a ladder. Your second task (there are just five) is to describe the ladder. What is it made of? How big is it? Where is it, about the cube?
Now imagine that in the scene there is a horse. (Yes, horse. I didn’t say this desert made sense). Your third task: describe the horse. Most importantly: where is the horse, and what is it doing? Where, if anywhere, is it going?
We’re nearly there now. In the scene before you are flowers. Your penultimate task: describe the flowers. How many are there? What do they look like? Where are they, about the horse, cube, ladder and sand?
Final question. In the desert, there is a storm. Describe the storm. What type of storm is it? Is it near, or far? What direction is it headed? Does it affect the horse, flowers, cube or ladder?
If you’ve been playing along, this is going to be fun. If you didn’t, I must warn you: the next part ruins your ability to play this game ever again. If you don’t want to ruin it forever, go back now. Trust me.
Ready? There’s no going back.
How to connect deeply with anyone (in 5 minutes)
The cube is yourself.
The size is ostensibly your ego: a large cube means you’re pretty sure of yourself, a small cube less so.
The vertical placement of the cube is how grounded you are. Resting on the sand? You’re probably pretty down to earth. Floating in the sky? Your head is in the clouds.
The cube’s material conveys how open you are: transparent cubes belong to transparent people, opaque cubes are more protective of their minds. Glowing? You’re likely a positive person, who aims to raise the spirits of others. Made of granite? You’re likely protective and resilient.
The trick here is that when asked to describe a blank, abstract entity – a cube – your imagination will tend to project its own identity onto it. This trick is as old as time, but it’s about to get more interesting.
The ladder represents your friends.
Are your friends leaning on the cube? Your friends depend on you and are close. Is the ladder frail, or robust? Tall or short? Does it lead inside the cube? Or is it cast to one side, lying unloved on the sand? By now you should be able to draw your own conclusions.
The horse represents your dream partner.
The type of horse reveals a lot about what you yearn for in a partner. Some people see a steady brown workhorse, others a shining Pegasus or unicorn. Make of these people what you will.
Is your horse nuzzling your cube affectionately, or taking a bite out of it? Is it far from your cube, or walking away? This can represent a current partner, or an aspirational one, but the results are often a mix of touching and hilarious.
The flowers represent children.
The number of flowers relates to how many you imagine having. Some people see just a single, withered daisy; others a resplendent garden covering the cube and desert beneath. (Guys: watch out for those).
The colour and vitality of the flowers can speak to their health and presumed prosperity. The placement – particularly about the cube – can reveal interesting relations; I met one woman whose horse was eating their flowers.
Finally, the storm represents a threat.
This speaks to the current state of the person, and how they perceive risk in their life. Some may see a distant storm, on the lip of the horizon, fading from sight. Others may view themselves in the midst of a thunderous apocalypse, hailstones the size of tennis balls pelting their fragile cube and horse. Chances are those people have some immediate trauma in their life.
Now is this all correct? Of course, it isn’t. You won’t be reading any peer-reviewed journals on the soothsaying properties of horses and ladders. This is a game, albeit one that has endured in various forms for thousands of years.
But if you play along – and I encourage you to try this on others – you will find it appears to have an uncanny sense of reliability to it. There might be many reasons: people seem to project themselves onto abstract objects (the cube), and their affections onto animals (the horse). Our nurturing of flowers bears some resemblance to that of children, a storm is a signal of environmental danger that taps into our sense of unease, and a ladder is something we find supporting.
Maybe it’s all just wishful psychobabble.
But I’ll tell you what. It’s an incredible tool for getting to know someone. In five minutes you’re able to discuss a stranger’s character, friends, partner, children, risks, dreams and aspirations. You will stand out as someone memorable, and you probably had a right laugh too.
Now, let me tell you my results. My cube was metallic, solid metal that, Matt Silver, to look at and had a shiny surface. It was huge, many times a man’s height, it was dense, and placed on the desert sand, on one of its six sides, over a sand-dune.
My ladder was almost twice to thrice my height. It was made of Bamboo and was strong. It was leaning against the cube’s left edge. It ended a few feet below the cube’s top.
My horse was black, with camel-like feet, so it can easily walk around may be. It had a fierce look and was tall and had a mane in the black and black tail. It was neighing, and standing to the left side of the cube, a few feet away from the ladder and the cube. It was facing me, and yes, it was not saddled but had reins.
For flowers, I saw Mimulus flowers, 5 to be exact. They were in Yellow and Purple and were growing in the small patch of grass at the base of the cube on its right edge. The cube was offering them shade from the scorching sun. They were a good distance away from the horse and the ladder but touching the cube.
As for the storm, it was a sandstorm, one that blackens the sky with sand particles flying around. It was coming from the horizon towards the cube. It was everywhere; my eyes could feel the grainy sand particles. The horse was just moving his head to ward off dust, but otherwise, it was unmoved by it, not at all bothered. The cube whatsoever was not affected, as it was too solid and dense, the ladder was making a pat-pat sound against the cube as the storm shook it, but I knew it wouldn’t fall, its two legs were deep in sand and firmly planted. The flowers were shaking a lot, but they were sheltered by the cube from the direction the storm came from so they were not in danger, Though I found that the stem of one of them is a bit broken by the impact of the storm.